What did I not want to see, inside of me? What weeds grew, unnoticed, in fallow ground? What was pressed down into the soil of my soul? What seeds took root in the darkest crevises? What shoots twisted up towards the light? What spores grew in my muddy insides? Was it anger, self loathing? Continue Reading
Are You Sure She Wasn’t Asking For It? Shame and Blame in the Birth Game
The story of the female holiday maker in Cyprus who was raped and then not believed has brought back some strong memories and emotions for me. It's more than 25 years ago now, half a lifetime. And yet, the fear and fury can still be brought to the surface so easily. This poor woman has been Continue Reading
Modern Birth: The End of Pregnancy As We Know It?
The great feminist Gloria Steinem once said, Democracy begins with owning our bodies. By that measure, women have rarely lived in a democracy When I think about birth, and more specifically, the politics of the modern, mechanised birth factories, that quote often comes to mind. Recently, I've Continue Reading
Helen’s 6 Babies, 5 with tongue tie
"This is my story of six breastfed babies, five of them with tongue tie. I have done my best to keep it brief, but of course that’s a lot of babies! Emily My eldest child was born in 2013. I have some degree of hypermobility and had really struggled with SPD during the pregnancy. I hadn’t Continue Reading
Getting Breastfeeding Going When Your Birth Has Gone Tits Up
Let's face it, there are a lot of birth plans changing right now and a lot of anxiety and trauma as a result. I can't emphasis enough that building your team is more important than ever. Emotional support is always worth it's weight in gold but at the moment, it's essential. Support from Continue Reading
Doulas and Moolah: Money, Money, Money in a Rich Man’s World.
Attitudes to Money When I asked a group of doulas to tell me what they immediately think of when I say the word money, the responses were interesting Tree! I need one. I find it embarrassing to ask for. The root of all evil. Bills What do I owe you? I never seem to have quite Continue Reading
A Handful of Gemstones: Doulas Celebrate Wonderful Midwives and Doctors
I recently wrote a post about some of the things that are said to parents to cajole, manipulate or threaten them into accepting interventions. This is a widespread problem but the last thing I would want is for my readers to think that I have an unrelentingly negative view and experience of the way Continue Reading
Pat & Archy of The Patriarchy
Oh Pat&Archy, you have the lion's share. You're playing footsie with the FTSE, Stuffed shirts on all the boards you Chair. Oh Pat, why are you so greedy and so fat? Oh Archy, why must you always play the autocrat? Dear Pat&Archy, why do you hate us so? You rape and take, or turn away Continue Reading
Breastfeeding Support? What’s THAT?
What does support mean? When it comes to breastfeeding your baby, the dictionary definition may, or may not be too helpful: Support /səˈpɔːt/ verb 1. bear all or part of the weight of; hold up. 2. give assistance to, especially financially. noun 1. a thing that bears the weight of Continue Reading
6 Visions of Breastfeeding Support for Cinderella
As brand new breastfeeding mothers, we can sometimes feel like Cinderella, sitting lonely in the kitchen while everyone else is having fun, feeling like we have been tasked with the impossible. But just like Cinderella, you are not alone. Even without her mother to care for her, Cinders had others Continue Reading