Let's face it, there are a lot of birth plans changing right now and a lot of anxiety and trauma as a result. I can't emphasis enough that building your team is more important than ever. Emotional support is always worth it's weight in gold but rat the moment, it's essential. Support from Continue Reading
Doulas and Moolah: Money, Money, Money in a Rich Man’s World.
Attitudes to Money When I asked a group of doulas to tell me what they immediately think of when I say the word money, the responses were interesting Tree! I need one. I find it embarrassing to ask for. The root of all evil. Bills What do I owe you? I never seem to have quite Continue Reading
A Handful of Gemstones: Doulas Celebrate Wonderful Midwives and Doctors
I recently wrote a post about some of the things that are said to parents to cajole, manipulate or threaten them into accepting interventions. This is a widespread problem but the last thing I would want is for my readers to think that I have an unrelentingly negative view and experience of the way Continue Reading
Oh Pat&Archy, why do you hate us so?
Oh Pat&Archy, you have the lion's share. You're playing footsie with the FTSE, Stuffed shirts on all the boards you Chair. Oh Pat, why are you so greedy and so fat? Oh Archy, why must you always play the autocrat? Dear Pat&Archy, why do you hate us so? You rape and take or turn away Continue Reading
Breastfeeding Support? What’s THAT?
What does support mean? When it comes to breastfeeding your baby, the dictionary definition may, or may not be too helpful: Support /səˈpɔːt/ verb 1. bear all or part of the weight of; hold up. 2. give assistance to, especially financially. noun 1. a thing that bears the weight of Continue Reading
6 Visions of Breastfeeding Support for Cinderella
As brand new breastfeeding mothers, we can sometimes feel like Cinderella, sitting lonely in the kitchen while everyone else is having fun, feeling like we have been tasked with the impossible. But just like Cinderella, you are not alone. Even without her mother to care for her, Cinders had others Continue Reading
My Doula Year 2018
I started the year with twins. Sitting in the quiet, dark hours with a mother as she feeds one, and then the other. I hold a baby, pat and settle them both. Whisper reassurance into the gloaming. Christmas lights still twinkle outside the window. I doze on the sofa til daybreak. Next Continue Reading
Birth Trauma: The Emotional Ripple Effects
"At least you have a healthy baby" "It's over now, focus on your lovely baby" "It's horrific isn't it? You'll soon forget the pain and want another baby, LOL" "Chin up, try not to let it get to you" "All that matters is a healthy baby" "Why are you crying?" "You didn't really think you could Continue Reading
Dear Fed Is Best…
Today's guest post is by doula and trainee breastfeeding counsellor Becky Young. Trigger warning, contains content about an ill baby. I am honoured to host this story of suffering and prevailing breastfeeding trauma. If you have unresolved feelings of grief around your breastfeeding journey, please Continue Reading
Breastfeeding Celebration? The Lights Go Out in Blackpool
Today's post is from Zoe Walsh, a doula and trainee Breastfeeding Counsellor in Blackpool who is joining us to speak out against the cuts to breastfeeding support during 'Breastfeeding Celebration Week'. If, like us, you feel there really isn't much to celebrate (other than the amazing families who Continue Reading